![]() ![]() After reading this study, I decided to completely turn away from what he was doing and focus all of my energy into making our blog even better. ↑ Table of Contents ↑ A Happy Non-Revenge EndingĪs you might have guessed, I did not rain farts upon my competitor’s blog. This shifts the focus onto you and your mission and makes your perpetrator irrelevant–which is exactly where they should be. Get the reward center of your brain pumping by thinking about how sweet it will feel when you meet your goals. Put it towards hustling to get what you want. The next time you feel the dark tendrils of revenge creeping into your soul, I want you to take that intensity and put it towards succeeding. “The best revenge is massive success.” –Frank Sinatra ![]() There is a healthy way to deal with these feelings that can help you heal and give your brain the same amount of rewards without the consequences.Īre you ready for it? This one comes from the amazing, prolific, Frank Sinatra. Even though you might be tempted to punish a wrong, you end up punishing yourself because you can’t heal.īut what do you do if you were wronged? How can you deal with the intense emotional feelings of retribution? What do you do if you feel an intense need for revenge? Revenge re-opens and aggravates your emotional wounds. ↑ Table of Contents ↑ What to Do with Revenge “A man that studieth revenge, keeps his own wounds green, which otherwise would heal.” –Francis Bacon Instead of delivering justice, revenge often creates only a cycle of retaliation. But in fact, revenge has the opposite effect.Įven though the first few moments feel rewarding in the brain, psychological scientists have found that instead of quenching hostility, revenge prolongs the unpleasantness of the original offense. Movies often portray the act of revenge as a way of gaining closure after a wrong. We often believe that exacting revenge is a form of emotional release and that getting retribution will help us feel better. ↑ Table of Contents ↑ The Long-Term Effects of Revenge However, they wanted to know one more thing: Does revenge keep rewarding? This is the part of the brain known to process rewards.īig Idea: This study found that revenge, in the moment, is quite rewarding. Immediately, researchers noticed a rush of neural activity in the caudate nucleus.The researchers then gave the wronged participant a chance to punish the other person, and for a full minute as the victim’s contemplated revenge, the activity in their brain was recorded.They scanned the brains of people who had just been wronged during a game in the lab.↑ Table of Contents ↑ The Science of RevengeĪ group of Swiss researchers wanted to know what happens in the brain when someone reaps revenge. Before I get into how I dealt with this blogging monster, here’s what I found about the science and psychology of retribution. It was such a powerful feeling that I began to research the psychology of revenge and discovered the scientific seeds of this article. I wanted to shoot arrows at his articles.About 2 or 3 weeks after we would come out with a post, we would see a strikingly similar post go up on their blog-citing the same research and quotes!īah! It made me so mad!!!! He was stealing all of our hard work and watering down the topic. So I was more than miffed when I noticed a fellow blogger was poaching our blog topics. I spend weeks honing topics, finding research and coming up with titles to make sure that everything we put up is extremely relevant (and of course anti-boring!). I am constantly looking for ideas, pictures and article topics in my daily life and have pages and pages of notes for possible posts. ![]() Basically, I LOVE writing for the Science of People-and am so grateful to you for reading! Let me back up…I give a slice of my heart and thumb every time I write for this blog. Like foot stomping, slobbery snarling, pirate cursing angry. ![]()
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